When a Child Leaves Us

Our bond is greater than the universe.

From conception..through birth, into childhood, to maturity..

Our children weave our spiritual web. We can not begin to think of life without communication with our children. We are in a safe haven and in God we trust that nothing can take away this blessing that was given to us. Our Gift.

Our families, friends, and communities are all part of our secure foundation. They share in our joy and help build our dreams, our future. But what if the unthinkable happens?

Will they understand our continual connection with our child? Our new philosophies of life? And, how can we fit in the spiritual traditions of the same world views as everyone else?

It takes time before we trust in God again, but we do.

Pain-I remember grabbing a picture of Jesus, looking into his eyes and throwing the picture across the room. I felt so much pain. My chest felt as though a knife was stuck right in the middle of my heart and I could not take it out. My arms ached to hold the child I carried for nine months, held still in my arms waiting to hear a cry, but silence surrounded me.

Rebuilding-Slowly, the pain lifted when I called upon my angel and God. I still needed God in my life and needed to trust in the ways of life.

Philosophy-My gift was the precious moments I had to feel life inside me for the first time. To hold and see a beautiful baby that will always be a part of my life. I believe we can take all that happens to us and create positives that may reach others. I know I can't see my baby or watch him grow, but I can continue to keep his spirit alive through acts of kindness to others..

Please don't think parents are not going on with their lives, or that we need ongoing sympathy..but we need, in some way, to do for them as we would do if they were here with us.

A small bill of rights for parents

Please don't tell a mom that "it was meant to be" or "good thing you have another child" or "you can still have other children"...it is our right to always keep our child in our lives and our child will always be as important as any child we have or will have.

It is healthy for us to keep all our children is our spiritual web and if one is lost and their voice is silent..their spirit still echoes and we are still connected.

We are different now, but not so different that we don't want to communicate with our family and friends just as we always have.

Our spiritual lives may be different and that's o.k. We will grow and strengthen. We never planned on this or thought we could ever have the strength to endure such loss, but without any choice, we entered through an extraordinary spiritual doorway.

May you be blessed with Peace and be surrounded by Love in ways you never dreamed.